Valentine’s Day Edition: Learning to Love our Bodies Even Though they Cause us Pain

In this special Valentine’s Day edition, we’re going to take a look at some ways that we can learn to love our bodies (and ourselves) again. Even with Chronic Pain!

There are some days when I do not like my body. In fact, there are some days where I detest it and certainly am not anywhere close to “loving it”. I wish it would function “properly” and the pain would go away. There are also times when my situation triggers some of my old shame buttons and I start to dislike myself as a whole person.

What is a Pain Camper to do? We live in our bodies day after day, moment after painful moment.

That’s when I stop, breathe and remember that I am on a journey of moving from surviving to thriving.  I need to learn how to love my new body. The one that I have now ACP (After Chronic Pain).

Pain Camper Plan of Action

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[li]Grieve[/li]We must come to accept that our bodies are different than they once were. To be able to accept this change, we must grieve the loss of our bodies and what they could do BCP (Before Chronic Pain). This will be an ongoing process and we may have to revisit this on occasion. Even after years of living with the pain.
[li]What does my body do right?[/li]Focus on things that your body does well. If we have our limbs, be grateful. If we have our sight, be grateful. If we can smell and taste, be grateful for that too! Focusing on what our bodies do well can help us get through those tough days.
[li]Pamper[/li]There are some days that we need to pamper our bodies. Call it pampering, not just a tool. For instance, if a bath with epsom salt is in store, add some baking powder (aluminum free) and some essential oil. Get a mani/pedi (guys, you can do this one too!) or a new fresh haircut. Think of other things that you can do to love your body by pampering it.
[li]Forgiveness[/li]Forgiving our bodies when they’re misbehaving is also an important step to move from surviving to thriving. If we hold anger or resentment against our bodies, the chronic pain and the insanity it has created, we will not be able to move forward.

Pain Camp is a safe place to share your thoughts, experience, strength and hope. How do you show love to your body? How can you take care of yourself this Valentine’s Day?


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  1. Jessie says:

    It is so important to ALWAYS remember what we have and what we can still do while having chronic pain. I seem to forget this often.

    • camperjen says:

      Thanks Camper Jessie for sharing. I too, sometimes forget to have the gratitude for the functioning parts of my body. We look forward to seeing you back here again! Thanks!

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